Compatible

Something I've pondered: If opposites attract, why do dating services offer compatibility, and what does it really mean? Similar interests, goals, standards or spiritual/religious attitudes I can understand. But do I want someone who is just like me in as many ways as possible? Wouldn't that be weird? Is it because my human nature is egotistical and self centered, that the perfect mate would be....myself? Our self image is usually better than how the world actually sees us; unless of course there are self esteem issues, and we've been told for so long that we are worthless. In that case anything pretty much goes; after all who would want me? Be fortunate to have a date with Steve Urkel, or Marge the love barge!
Could it possibly be, that opposites are actually more compatible- as they make up for each other's weaknesses and compliment each others qualities? In the area one falls short- the other can fill in the gap. Working together they create a synergy- a well rounded whole. In a perfect world that is.
Maybe we were meant to have different hobbies, or pursuits, so we can get a break from one another occasionally. Even the very best of friends will ultimately turn on each other if they're together all the time. In my experience folks who could not or did not want to ever be by themselves were likely unstable and insecure. Everybody needs occasional quiet time to themselves, so they can reflect and introspect without distraction or interference- necessary for our psycho- health.
Would I really like having my wife/ girlfriend right there next to me- polishing rocks, or working on the computer, or learning a new song on the guitar? How could that not turn into some kind of competition? And if we both had a weakness for gambling, or a substance problem, etc. our problem would be multiplied- compounded! If I was with someone like me, our finances would be doubly screwed up, we would be fighting over the ice cream- and nobody would ever do the dishes!
In social environments I've always been the wallflower, introverted, quiet, self composed- but my ex- wife was enough of an extrovert for both of us. And a lot of the things I detested, like certain responsibilities, paperwork, conflict, drama of any kind- she handled with ease. And I loved it! One of the Goliaths that seemed always to torment her (laundry) was a walk in the park for me- could have done it blindfolded and made a game out of it, and I would have had fun. I loved to cook, be the handyman and fix and maintain the mechanical and household appliances, I even sewed, tended the flower garden, helped the kids with their homework- all to her relief. But it was no biggie because those were my strengths-they came naturally without really trying..As it was for her also easy to be ambitious, assertive, not satisfied with status quo- but pushing the rest of us to grow and expand horizons.
I want to be with someone who is different, exciting, unpredictable, with new ideas and viewpoints. OR just be with myself. I've already got me, and I'm a good conversationalist. But who is gonna do the dishes??